Pushy Roommate treating me Like a Slave?

My roommate and I have been friends for six years. This is are first year living together. I heard all the warnings, but really did not think it would be a problem.





Things have been strange. I am a huge neat freak and am always cleaning, but she never offers to help. To make matters worse, she asked me to do her laundry.





I could deal with that except things have gotten worse. The other day she got home from her job as a bank teller and sat on the couch with me. She slipped off her shoes and put her feet on my lap and asked me to give her a foot massage. I pushed them away and she got upset. I felt bad and gave her the massage. It was really unpleasant. Her stockings smelled awful.





I thought that was the end of it, but she has asked me to do this a couple more times. I feel bad telling her know and always end up doing it. She gave me a foot massage at a friend%26#039;s wedding a while ago and I feel like it is inappropriate for me to say no.

Pushy Roommate treating me Like a Slave?
Get a backbone! Your roommate is NOT treating you like a slave without your permission. Everytime you give in and do what she wants you are giving her permission to keep doing it over and over again. LEARN TO SAY NO! It will be hard the first few times you say no, then it will get easier.
Reply:Just tell her i can%26#039;t take it anymore and try to get her to be a neat freak too.
Reply:i wouldnt feel bad telling your roommate you dont want to do something i mean shes taking advantage of you, you shouldnt let her do that just refuse but dont be to mean because she might try and play a prank on you or something





if it gets to bad i would find a new room mate or move
Reply:You are not being treated %26quot;like%26quot; a slave...you are being treated %26quot;as%26quot; a slave. The real problem though, doesn%26#039;t sound like your roommate...it sounds like you%26#039;ve got the problem. You do things you don%26#039;t want to do when you are under pressure to do them. I would bet this goes beyond the roommate situation.


Even if it doesn%26#039;t, you%26#039;ve got to grow a pair (figuratively of course) and take a quiet stand. What I mean by that is not confronting your roommate and causing a scene - it%26#039;s just not necessary - what should be done is say %26quot;no%26quot; when it is appropriate and don%26#039;t give in to pressure to do things you don%26#039;t want to do. The great thing is, you can start right now - from scratch - and as long as you%26#039;re not a jerk about it there wont be any trauma inflicted on the friendship.
Reply:your friend is taking advantage of you, and that%26#039;s not what friends are for!


friends can do something on occassion to be nice to one another, but to treat you like that is TOTALLY mistreating you! take your stand!


you paid her back for the foot massage, but for her to be so obnoxious as to just stick her feet on your lap and insist on a massage is really awful. tell her straight


%26quot;look, you%26#039;re really a great friend, but latel you%26#039;ve been kind of mistreating me. i would love to still be friends, but i%26#039;d also love it if you%26#039;d stop using me....%26quot;


or something along the lines. you have to just tel her.
Reply:SORRY CAN U SHORTEN THE QUESTION?
Reply:get a spine man you freakin dumbo



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